The One Thing That’s Certain
Every now and then, I get a chance to be human. I received an orange notification in my mailbox the other day addressed to my business. Turns out, it had been in the mailbox for four days….no, really, this get even better!
I called the post office to see if they still have it and learned they hold them for 15 days. I signed the notice and gave it to someone to pick up for me. My schedule does not fit into the opening hours of the local post office. Somewhere between the post office and returning it to me, the letter disappeared. Ok, now this is getting weird. What is this strange piece of paper related too? My instincts go into high alert, this is bad news for sure! I have a seventh sense for these things.
People just don’t send enough certified letters from the County office with refunds of overpayments or long=lost relatives leaving monies and interest anymore, now do they? Rhetorical question, I know. Anyway, I decide to call to see if I could find out just who sent me the letter and to see what I could do for them.
Turns out, it was not the business license department, so I nervously asked the lady (she wouldn’t give me her name) on the other end to transfer me to business tax office. The red flags are flying like I’m coming in for a landing!
Once transfered, the lady was very polite. She gave her name and after a few minutes of research said, “Yes, it was from this office…” That pounding in my ear almost made her inaudible. All I wanted to know is how much do I owe.
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Reality Check for the Type A Types
I made a horrible mistake! I am usually a very thorough top performer, but I relied on technology much too much and it failed me…horribly! Truth is…I never realized it failed me until it was too late to recover from the failure. That was so embarrassing. It was totally my fault. There was not one other person I could blame. I totally dropped the ball!
And, boy…did it drop with a thud that could be heard around the world!! How many times have we admitted total, unadulterated, complete, and utter failure? Not once, but layers upon layers, upon layers of failure. What a horrible feeling! How do we recover? The incident plays like our favorite song on rewind in our mind.
I did not do the work. I did not meet the deadline. I did not please the customers Woe is me. My performance for this one day was not what it has been for the other 364 days of my work year. I did not pass “GO”, I must go straight to Failures Jail. The $200 goes back into the bankers’ drawer. Every now and then, I’m reminded of my “humanness.” If that isn’t a word, it should be.
That is when I cannot do anything right. Usually, it is starts with a build, one thing goes wrong, then another, then another then another, then another and so on…until I discover I’ve not been doing things right for several weeks or sometimes months! It is humbling, Earth shattering, and makes you see just how stupid you can be on some of the most simplest things.
Like everyone else, I pull out the balloons, streamers of tears and send the invitation for a pity party to the guest of one. That lasts right up until I get a reality check. God gives me a sign that someone is doing so much worse than I am and they are totally grateful and appreciative. The balloons are popped. The tears are dried. I pull up the big girl undies. Dust off my “S” and get back in the game. If they can fight cancer head on, if they can start a benefit after losing a child; if they can go through soul shaking tragedy and spin it into something positive, I don’t get to cry over a mistake I made at the office and neither do you.
The pity party is over and we are to keep it real. We may go there, but by no means can we stay there. Chin up, soldier…we are gathered here in this game called Life!
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Artist Yvette Michele Has Art Umbrellas & More
I ran across one of Artist Yvette Michele’s wonderful umbrellas and purchased the “Cruising” printed umbrella to match my raincoat for the upcoming Spring rainy season. I can hardly wait until it arrives. It has a Parisian quality and fashionable design.
Get your art craving satisfied at the link and tell them Linda sent you!
Are You Networking The Right Way?
You have just received an invitation to a small business networking event. You scan the invite list to see who is coming. Hmmm…yep, there’s a few business owners who can become future collaborators, so you RSVP that you are attending.
Wait a minute…what if there was no one there for you to do business with? Would you still attend? Most people only use networking as a tool for meeting people who can benefit them. However, consider taking your networking experience a bit further by gaining a new perspective, or testing a new idea, or even having a new experience.
Networking can add to your net worth and by using it properly it can expand your mind and create a better you. So, the next time you receive an invitation to a small business networking event instead of scanning the list, scan the crowd by being open to meeting new and interesting business owners. Happy Networking!
Are You Reacting Or Are You Responding?
Extrovert people tend to raise their voice, throw things and try to be heard when they are frustrated. The effects of their behavior can be seen in the strained relationships around them. Most of them are not bad people, they just haven't been taught how to communicate effectively in order to be heard.
When responding to someone in a relationship that matters (i.e., job, spouse, children, parents, friends) what if you take a moment and ask yourself, “Am I reacting with emotions?” “Or, am I responding to be heard?”
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LSMB 21-Day Challenge
Are you ready to make small changes that have HUGE impact in taking you where you want to go in your life?
Below are 21 Days of small changes you can make to improve your life and your way of thinking. Be the main part of your own rescue!
Each day apply the next step in consecutive order (i.e., Day 1, Day 2, Day 3, etc.) THEN posted before you begin the next day’s step Go to the LSMB Business Solutions Facebook Page and post the Day of the Challenge you completed.
This is your accountability step so don’t skip it…it is a very important part of your growth. Stay committed and get a partner, if needed.
For example: “I just complete Day #5 of the LSMB 21 Day Challenge!”
*CLICK ON THE “LSMB ON FACEBOOK” link to go to the Facebook page
21-Day Challenge | |||||
Day 1 | Find a Mentor
(score.org has mentors for business owners) |
Day 8 | Subscribe to Merriam-Webster.com to learn a new word a day
(https://www.merriam-webster.com/word-of-the-day) |
Day 15 | Do one thing you’ve been putting off |
Day 2 | Pick a Book to Read | Day 9 | Call someone you haven’t called in a while and say “hello.” | Day 16 | Create a Bucket List |
Day 3 | Set time 20 minutes earlier | Day 10 | Look up a way to volunteer | Day 17 | Say one empowering thing to a young person |
Day 4 | Bless a stranger | Day 11 | Learn 3 words in a different language
(https://translate.google.com/) |
Day 18 | Do one thing that makes you feel uncomfortable, but it makes you grow |
Day 5 | Take a picture of your Happy | Day 12 | Do not use Can’t for 24 hours | Day 19 | Go out of your way to help 2 people |
Day 6 | Search the web for a hobby | Day 13 | Teach one person something new | Day 20 | Drop one bad habit for 24 hours |
Day 7 | Write a letter to your future self and seal it for one year | Day 14 | Arrive 10 minutes earlier | Day 21 | Write down 3 things you learned about yourself in the past 20 days |
This is challenge is totally voluntary. All rights reserved. LSMB does not assume any responsibility or liability for any charges incurred by participants.
Inbox Linda Murray Bullard on Facebook if you have any questions about the 21-Day Challenge.
THREE (3) BUSINESS COACHING MYTHS BUSTED
1) I don’t need one…I know how to run a business.
Mythbuster #1: Most new business owners feel just like you. That’s why there is universally a 90%+ failure rate of new businesses closing in 5 Years. Most new business owners have product knowledge and they confuse that for business knowledge. Most new businesses do not close because they are bad ideas, they close because they don’t understand the importance of focused marketing, sales strategies, or how to structure a viable 3-, 5-, or 10-year strategic planning.
2) I cannot afford a Business Coach.
Mythbuster #2: When you add up all the money you have spent “doing it your way” you have probably paid for a year’s service of business coaching and with business coaching you get a return on your investment. When you spend money needlessly, there are zero returns.
3) A business coach will try to make me run my business his/her way!
Mythbuster #3: Business Coaches make suggestions and offer information so the business owner can make informed choices. Business owners begin making “educated” decisions because they add business acumen to their product knowledge which leads to strategic positioning that adds to the likelihood of sustainability for the business.