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What Is It That Makes You Keep Going?

What is it that makes you keep going? I get asked that one question most often. Other than the obligation I feel in making a path for my Suns, the only thing I can tell you is it is in my DNA. Something inside of me does not allow me to settle for the status quo in my life. I have been in a room filled with people and felt very alone. I have been in a large room with only one person and feel overcrowded.

Am I different from most people…sometimes. Yet that response really depends on the group of people being referenced. I know what it is like to be extraordinary. However, I’ve been in certain groups and in certain places where I have felt right at home.  In the following paragraphs, I will use what I have learned about being a creative to summarize what I believe are the differences in the self-motivation of the different types of people I have met in my life.

For the people who are similar to me, I will call us the Audacious Type . We have a third eye. We don’t need people to tell us what need to be done, because when we see something needs to be done, we get it done. Something in our bloodstream heats up and we jump to it. No questions asked. It’s an autopilot thing.

So far in my walk, I’ve been able to identify with people who “take the bull by the horns.”  We see a problem and find a solution. We feed off each other and speak the same language. For those who are just beginning their journey, it’s like, “YESSSS…YOU FEEL ME!!” For those who have been on this path for a minute, we literally finish each others’ sentences.

For those who have been on this journey for years, I seek out these people. I call them the Futures. They hold the hidden secrets that I have sought all of my life. In their presence, time has no boundaries and speeds up without ever considering age or space. They are the true gurus who pass the knowledge back to me for they have experiences I’ve yet to conquer. The nuggets they share help us to guide the newcomers forward. They feed us and we feed the ones who come behind us.

When in the presence of these precious, rare jewels, I am not DIFFERENT. My position is student. I am to just be and so are they. I’ve been in a room with hundreds of various ages who were just like us. When we are together, the energy is so high it can be felt as it swirls throughout the space. Information is shared and exchanged. Connections are made and lives are changed. One by one and all at the same time. The energy is so high, it must be equal to the addiction the addicts seek to repeat over and over again. With us, it only occurs when we are in spaces where all of us are the same and allowed to be different!

There are people who would be like us if we would just tell them what to do next. They are the Nexters. These people are always welcomed because around us, their lights shine just as bright. Once lit, their inspiration thrives and survives. Their wicks become the lights for so many others. As we light them, they transform their worlds.

Then, there are the people who need constant coaxing. These are the Absorbers. They aren’t high maintenance, but they need a roommate who is also a life coach needing a case study. They need a little more time and consistency in cuddling. These people can be highly frustrating because you will find yourself not getting anything done, but working on them.

The final group, I will call the Drainers. These people are those that need an extensive amount of support. These people have that hidden desire, but no effort or follow through. They never get started. You can give them the information, the map, and the paper and pencil for notes. At the end of the month, they will still be where you left them. If you spend the morning coaching and consulting with them, hours later they are in the same position making excuse after excuse why they never got started. Their intentions may even be good, but their efforts and desires are to remain just where they are and they will fight you tooth and nail to stay there. They might complain about their current situation, and may even give reasonable solutions to how their situation could be improved. However, they lack the drive and fortitude to make any corrections. If you press too hard they will shut completely down…and often disconnect. If they say they will get to it or make repeated excuses, your best bet is to allow them to stay where they are comfortable. Sometimes, they just want you to just hang out with them doing nothing. Believe me, if you are an Audacious Type, being around a Drainer will drive you up a wall. So keep it brief and move on.

What does it take to keep going?  Begin…no matter where you are…start there. That’s the only way to get to where you are going, regardless to which personality you have been bless to become. Whatever you do…

“Think Higher!”

The Effects of The Dash

What I’ve learned in the past two days is it doesn’t matter what day you are born or what day you die. What matters most is how you spent your dash. People from various socio-economic backgrounds flowed in and out of Taylor Funeral Home for one reason…to pay their respects to Mr. Obbie Dial.

Obbie Dial

 

http://www.chattanoogan.com/2017/6/13/349766/Dial-Obbie-Jr..aspx

My Daughter-in-Love’s Father spent his life making impact on people at all ranks. He was beloved. He was admired. He was well known. He was respected. There were stories upon stories of how he loved on people, made them laughed, took their pictures, made them think…made them feel important and beautiful.

His picture taking skills are matched by few, his humorous antics were welcomed and enjoyed by all. He loved people and the people loved him back. His dash was spent well. Influencing lives, impacting people, leaving an imprint on hearts that tugged at heartstrings in his absence. Mr. Dial was a gentleman, a father, a friend, a classmate, a grandfather, a great grandfather. He was a good man who people drove from miles  to honor in his death. His untimely surmise will leave a void in so many lives, but his life filled a space in so many hearts.

May God keep Mr. Obbie Dial, Jr.’s daughter, Celestine Hampton, her brother, and the entire Dial family and friends during this very difficult time. LSMB dedicates a moment of silence for this champion of the human spirit for the impact he made and the effects of his dash.

The One Thing That’s Certain

Every now and then, I get a chance to be human. I received an orange notification in my mailbox the other day addressed to my business. Turns out, it had been in the mailbox for four days….no, really, this get even better!

 

I called the post office to see if they still have it and learned they hold them for 15 days. I signed the notice and gave it to someone to pick up for me. My schedule does not fit into the opening hours of the local post office. Somewhere between the post office and returning it to me, the letter disappeared. Ok, now this is getting weird. What is this strange piece of paper related too? My instincts go into high alert, this is bad news for sure! I have a seventh sense for these things.

People just don’t send enough certified letters from the County office with refunds of overpayments or long=lost relatives leaving monies and interest anymore, now do they? Rhetorical question, I know. Anyway, I decide to call to see if I could find out just who sent me the letter and to see what I could do for them.

Turns out, it was not the business license department, so I nervously asked the lady (she wouldn’t give me her name) on the other end to transfer me to business tax office. The red flags are flying like I’m coming in for a landing!

Once transfered, the lady was very polite. She gave her name and after a few minutes of research said, “Yes, it was from this office…” That pounding in my ear almost made her inaudible. All I wanted to know is how much do I owe.

In 2014, I received two personal property tax bills for $2 and change for my business. I paid them. I did the same in 2015, and 2016…or so I thought. Evidently, those years were the years I only received one bill for the city of Chattanooga taxes. Obviously, the county had been generating the same type of bills yet I’ve no record of receiving them since 2014. What was once a $2.98 tax bill is now worth $194.32. Good gooley, moogley!
 
I’m telling you this because just as the county’s web site states…failure to receive the notice does not negate the fact that you owe the taxes. Lesson learned and the way I can justify the cost is by sharing it with all of you. That way the cost of the lesson is reduced by the number of people this post will educate. I’ll call this a ROI of the $194.32.
So, pay your taxes whether you know you owe them or not. There are only two certain things in life, Death and Taxes…I was just bitten by one of them and it was unexpected and not nice at all!
By educating  you, you are actually helping me to feel better about my mistake. Together we are turning a negative into a positive! So I only need 2,217 to learn from my experiences. By sharing this, you are helping me. Thank you and you are welcomed. 
 
#$.09PerPersonSoundsAboutRight
#SharingMyLessonsToReduceMyCost

Reality Check for the Type A Types

I made a horrible mistake! I am usually a very thorough top performer, but I relied on technology much too much and it failed me…horribly! Truth is…I never realized it failed me until it was too late to recover from the failure. That was so embarrassing. It was totally my fault. There was not one other person I could blame. I totally dropped the ball!

And, boy…did it drop with a thud that could be heard around the world!!  How many times have we admitted total, unadulterated, complete, and utter failure? Not once, but layers upon layers, upon layers of failure.  What a horrible feeling! How do we recover? The incident plays like our favorite song on rewind in our mind.

 

I did not do the work. I did not meet the deadline. I did not please the customers Woe is me. My performance for this one day was not what it has been for the other 364 days of my work year. I did not pass “GO”, I must go straight to Failures Jail. The $200 goes back into the bankers’  drawer. Every now and then, I’m reminded of my “humanness.” If that isn’t a word, it should be.

That is when I cannot do anything right. Usually, it is starts with a build, one thing goes wrong, then another, then another then another, then another and so on…until I discover I’ve not been doing things right for several weeks or sometimes months! It is humbling, Earth shattering, and makes you see just how stupid you can be on some of the most simplest things.

Like everyone else, I pull out the balloons, streamers of tears and send the invitation for a pity party to the guest of one. That lasts right up until I get a reality check. God gives me a sign that someone is doing so much worse than I am and they are totally grateful and appreciative.  The balloons are popped. The tears are dried. I pull up the big girl undies. Dust off my “S” and get back in the game. If they can fight cancer head on, if they can start a benefit after losing a child; if they can go through soul shaking tragedy and spin it into something positive, I don’t get to cry over a mistake I made at the office and neither do you.

The pity party is over and we are to keep it real. We may go there, but by no means can we stay there. Chin up, soldier…we are gathered here in this game called Life!

Artist Yvette Michele Has Art Umbrellas & More

I ran across one of Artist Yvette Michele’s wonderful umbrellas and purchased the “Cruising” printed umbrella to match my raincoat for the upcoming Spring rainy season. I can hardly wait until it arrives. It has a Parisian quality and fashionable design.

Get your art craving satisfied at the link and tell them Linda sent you!

http://www.yvettemichele.com?afmc=1f

Are You Networking The Right Way?

You have just received an invitation to a small business networking event. You scan the invite list to see who is coming. Hmmm…yep, there’s a few business owners who can become future collaborators, so you RSVP that you are attending.

Wait a minute…what if there was no one there for you to do business with? Would you still attend? Most people only use networking as a tool for meeting people who can benefit them. However, consider taking your networking experience a bit further by gaining a new perspective, or testing a new idea, or even having a new experience.

Networking can add to your net worth and by using it properly it can expand your mind and create a better you. So, the next time you receive an invitation to a small business networking event instead of scanning the list, scan the crowd by being open to meeting new and interesting business owners.  Happy Networking!

Are You Reacting Or Are You Responding?

Extrovert people tend to raise their voice, throw things and try to be heard when they are frustrated. The effects of their behavior can be seen in the strained relationships around them. Most of them are not bad people, they just haven't been taught how to communicate effectively in order to be heard.

 

HERE’S A TIP:
When responding to someone in a relationship that matters (i.e., job, spouse, children, parents, friends) what if you take a moment and ask yourself, “Am I reacting with emotions?” “Or, am I responding to be heard?”

 

If you are reacting, you can easily say and do anything without thinking about it. But, if your goal is simply to be heard, you carefully choose the words, tone and actions in order to optimize the response. You are a winner and you seek to help the other person to win, as well. There are no losers in a conversation that matters.

 

It is hard to be heard when you are shouting…sounds crazy, huh….but your emotions can overshadow your words.

 

This week…strive to respond more and react less. Self control is key. Only you can control you!

 

 

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LSMB 21-Day Challenge



Are you ready to make small changes that have HUGE impact in taking you where you want to go in your life?

Below are 21 Days of small changes you can make to improve your life and your way of thinking. Be the main part of your own rescue!



Each day apply the next step in consecutive order (i.e., Day 1, Day 2, Day 3, etc.) THEN posted before you begin the next day’s step Go to  the LSMB Business Solutions Facebook Page  and post the Day of the Challenge you completed. 


This is your accountability step so don’t skip it…it is a very important part of your growth. Stay committed and get a partner, if needed.

For example: “I just complete Day #5 of the LSMB 21 Day Challenge!”

*CLICK ON THE “LSMB ON FACEBOOK” link to go to the Facebook page

21-Day Challenge
Day 1 Find a Mentor

(score.org has mentors for business owners)

Day 8 Subscribe to Merriam-Webster.com to learn a new word a day

(https://www.merriam-webster.com/word-of-the-day)

Day 15 Do one thing you’ve been putting off
Day 2 Pick a Book to Read Day 9 Call someone you haven’t called in a while and say “hello.” Day 16 Create a Bucket List
Day 3 Set time 20 minutes earlier Day 10 Look up a way to volunteer Day 17 Say one empowering thing to a young person
Day 4 Bless a stranger Day 11 Learn 3 words in a different language

(https://translate.google.com/)

Day 18 Do one thing that makes you feel uncomfortable, but it makes you grow
Day 5 Take a picture of your Happy Day 12 Do not use Can’t for 24 hours Day 19 Go out of your way to help 2 people
Day 6 Search the web for a hobby Day 13 Teach one person something new Day 20 Drop one bad habit for 24 hours
Day 7 Write a letter to your future self and seal it for one year Day 14 Arrive 10 minutes earlier Day 21 Write down 3 things you learned about yourself in the past 20 days

This is challenge is totally voluntary. All rights reserved. LSMB does not assume any responsibility or liability for any charges incurred by participants.

Inbox Linda Murray Bullard on Facebook if you have any questions about the 21-Day Challenge.